It is hard to acknowledge but sometimes it is not the fact of winning that drives us, but that someone else will lose.
Revenge or payback is a strong emotion. It encompasses hurt and frustration, combined with a destructive, angry creativity, full of ideas on ways to make the 'guilty party' pay.
But who really suffers when we go after revenge? Usually the object of our anger is ignorant of the energy we are giving them. We drain ourselves emotionally and physical. So how much does revenge drive your actions? And what do you gain from it?